THE TALK PART 5

The last time, I talked on teaching the children about sex at home before they learn it from outside. I equally talked about gaining their trust, for their own good and for our peace of mind as good parents.

It is easier with children, that is preteens, unlike the teenagers.
Some of the ways I recommend in no particular order through research are:

1. Please befriend them including their friends if you want to hear things.
2. Learn to respect them and their privacy.
3. Keep your promises and explain nicely when you can't, but it shouldn't be regular! Be reliable.
4. Try as much as you can to maintain a peaceful home.
5. Make it a habit to always communicate, if you only call whenever you are suspicious, it will seem like you are monitoring.
6. Be patient, you know what you want to achieve.

They want to be treated like adults, this way you can gain their trust. They can tell you stuff about their escapades, dates, crush etc. Then they will value your advice.
Remember, with teenagers, the more you look, the less you see.
All the best.